Why is it that, when we ask some people, “Are you going through any problems?” their response is, “Everybody’s got problems.” I ask again, “What have other people’s problems got to do with you?”
If they were so concerned about other people’s problems that they mention it all the time, what are they doing to help people that they are so “concerned” about? NOTHING! In fact, what they are actually saying when responding in this way is that they have done one of 3
things:
1. They don’t think there is a solution to their problems.
2. They have not faced up to dealing with the problem; they have accepted things the
way they are.
3. They know what to do but can’t be bothered to do anything about it.
Of course there are people who at present don’t have “problems”, but what happens when they come to a point in their lives where they don’t know what to do that day will come to everyone! When someone replies, “Everyone has problems,” they have, without realising it, acted in accordance with the standards, attitudes and practices that society has force-fed them into accepting.
This undoubtedly numbs the person from facing up to the problem and uprooting it.
I remember in one of the countless arguments I used to have with Chris during the first 5 years of knowing each other (we were attending UCKG for a few months already), I was so frustrated and, at the same time, fed up with fighting nearly every day that a thought, as clear as someone speaking to me, entered my mind saying, “Look, Mum had two failed marriages, so it’s normal to argue like this too. It’s part of life, so just accept it.”
And so I did for a short period until something clicked and we sought help. We had to get to the root of the problem and, when we both faced up to it, it was then that we found out what we needed to do. To tell the truth, the answer was right under our noses.
We were just too stubborn and proud to see it and do something about it. Instead of going to the root of our problem, we took the quick and easy way out to blame the other person for why things were the way they were.
That’s what people do too. They look for the quick and easy solution to avoid even mentioning their problem to someone; they think that just because there are people worse off than them, it’s OK to accept what life has thrown at them.
Of course, there are people who will need to be guided, as they genuinely have no idea what to do to find the solution. That’s why the Root Event will be starting on Sunday, 11th September 2011.
It’s time to face up to the past. Dig deep in your closet and unmask the skeletons that you chose to hide there. It’s also to force yourself to retrace your steps and mentally discover why that problem has ended up where it is today. That’s the only way you can unearth the root to the problems in your life and lay down positive “seeds” (actions) that will prosper in the future.
Don’t you think it’s time you stop listening to negative thoughts that always bombard your mind? Just because everyone you’ve spoken with, heard about or listened to has the same problems as you and they chose to deal with it by accepting it, you don’t have to do the same thing.
The solution starts on Sunday, 11th September. This can be the first positive seed you sow towards finding solutions to your problems by being there!
Will we see you there?
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