"I get so emotional baby..."





Paula Yates and Michael Hutchence

On 17 September 2000, Paula Yates, 41, was found dead at her home in London of an accidental heroin overdose. The coroner ruled that it was not a suicide, but a result of "foolish and incautious" behaviour.

Amy Winehouse and Blake Fielder-Civil.

A coroner's inquest reached a verdict of misadventure. The report released on 26 October 2011 stated that Winehouse's blood alcohol content was more than five times the legal drink-drive limit. According to the coroner, "The unintended consequences of such potentially fatal levels resulted in her sudden death."

Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown
On February 11, 2012, Houston was found dead in a suite at the Beverly Hilton Hotel, in Beverly Hills, California, submerged in the bathtub. Local police said there were "no obvious signs of criminal intent."

What did Paula Yates, Amy Winehouse and Whitney Houston all have in common?

Not only did they die in tragic circumstances, which you wouldn't think possible for such famous celebrities in their field, but the question you need to ask yourself is who introduced those things into their lives?

On the surface you could quickly reply that it was the pressure of fame which other celebrities have faced, but a closer look reveals that their partners had a very big role to play in their demise.

Paula Yates died after a heroin overdose. Amy Winehouse died of blood poisoning, and Whitney from a cocktail of alcohol and prescription drugs. These deaths did not happen after one fatal drug or alcohol binge. Their deaths were a result of months, even years of abuse—Why?

Because they made the wrong choice of dating known "bad boys" - men who had inner demons of their own but could not overcome them.

I'm positive that these women knew the addiction their men had, but battling their own inner demons, they either thought this man understands the problems I'm facing or was introduced to drugs and alcohol when it was too late—when their hearts said "I'm hooked to him". Therefore there would be no going back from the steep downward spiral culminating in their deaths.

If you think you can change someone you just met with addictions or a past that continues to haunt them, you will be on your own on that narrow lonely road. And the chances are: 

1.    You will accept the person as they are and continue in that relationship (knowing full well you will suffer for the rest of the time you are together, and even beyond)

2.    You will end up doing the same they do.

You need to take a step back and let that person find help in God. The real truth is that they, nor you are not ready for a relationship.

However, when you have God's Spirit in you, you firstly know what's right and what is wrong for you and you will have the strength to carry out the right decision—with no emotions attached. When you do not have His character, you are indecisive and will end up eventually saying yes to all that is wrong. Once you jump in at the deep end, it will be hard to save yourself.

And finally I recently heard one of Whitney's songs. I would strongly advise you not to follow these lyrics. However,  how many did and still do today:
"I get so emotional baby, every time I think of you..."

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Love - R.I.P.



Over the last month I attended 2 funeral services of faithful elderly members of the church. And as usual, we prayed for the family, relatives and friends of the deceased, instead of the soul of the dead, according to the Bible.

While waiting for family and friends to arrive at one house, I was thinking how people react according who has died.

Have you noticed when a young person has died, whether through an illness, a fatal incident or something else, the mourners cry bitterly asking 'why was a talented young life cut so short?' It seems that life touched everyone, especially their peers.

But have you also noticed that when an elderly person passes away, the reaction is not the same? Of course, there will always be very close family and friends who will mourn but I asked myself 'why does this happen?'

The conclusion I came up with is that everyone knows that the elderly person is nearing their time, whether through old age or a long-term sickness. We mentally prepare ourselves expecting that their death is just around the corner.

And unfortunately, that's how the older generation sometimes react towards their love life. Have you confined your love life to the morgue? Maybe you have convinced yourself that years of being single, because you are getting on in life, the idea that there is 'no one' out there for you, one failed relationship after another, all of this and more, contribute to the 'illness' or 'fatal sickness' that ends all hopes of ever having a successful love life.

If you are guilty of any of the above, then you yourself are nailing your coffin shut, erecting a tombstone on it with your epitaph saying 'Love - R.I.P.'

Have you been mourning the death of your love life though there is still time to not only focus on yourself, but to find someone and still enjoy many years of a happy marriage?

And the younger ones, take heed too as you may have already written yourself off though you have years ahead of you.

Whatever your age, there's a promise for you too which I would like you to have in the forefront of your mind whenever you feel down about your love life. You should repeat the following words to yourself:

"For with God nothing will be impossible." Luke 1:37

If you have a history of being with partners that were not right for you and now consider your love life dead because you have always ended up with the wrong type of person, then the Love Therapy meetings are for you. We will be revealing "10 reasons why he/she might not be the one".

Learning about these important points will help you to avoid even starting a relationship with someone who is not right for you, whether you have been married and divorced or if you are single and want to prepare yourself for a relationship.

Don't forget to pick up your Love Therapy card and start learning all 10 reasons this Saturday, 7pm - at The Rainbow.



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Do you need to be put to sleep?

"So Adam gave names to all the cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took of one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman..." Genesis 2:20-22 

Have you ever wondered why God when removing one of Adam’s ribs to form Eve; his wife, had to place Adam into a deep sleep?

Was it because he had to be put to sleep to avoid the pain of that first operation ever made

on man? Yes! However, God could have done it without causing him to sleep – right!

Let’s meditate on the above verse!

When God gave authority to Adam to name all the animals, He did not interfere when Adam was naming them. Therefore, Lion was named Lion, Horse – Horse, Eagle – Eagle. God did not say, “Adam, I think this name is incorrect. Why don’t you name this one ‘butter-phant.’” He gave him freedom to name them as he pleased. However, when it came to creating Woman, he caused Adam not to just fall asleep, but a deep sleep – Why?

God, in creating Adam in His likeness and image, perfect in every way, wanted to create someone perfect in nature and form for His creation – without any interference.

Can you imagine if Adam was awake and having been giving the freedom to name all the animals, now wanted to add his ‘50p’ in the creation of woman. What do you think Adam could have said?  He could have said “God, make Woman shorter, a size zero, with thicker lips and longer red hair. While You are doing that, give her another breast make her smile all the time for me”

This is the kind of list that people make in their minds in their search for their Adam or Eve. They don’t want to fall into a deep sleep. They want to ‘meddle’ in whom God chooses for them.

So, they pray for someone who is honest, outgoing, kind and ambitious – the qualities they would like most in a partner, but because the person only has one or two of these characteristics, they say ‘this is not who God has prepared for me.’ Maybe the person has all the characteristics, however, the person's looks was not exactly what they wanted.

And this keeps happening repeatedly. Maybe that person is carrying your rib or you have the one rib that belongs to your ‘Adam’ but you decide to take things into your own hands ‘meddle’ in what God has chosen to be the person for you.

If you keep complaining that there is no one for you, then I have the perfect solution: Fall into a VERY deep sleep... and only wake up when the anaesthetic wakes you up – no sooner.

That way you will see the qualities you have been praying for in that person, (though they may not have all of them) however like you, you will realise that they are a work-in-progress. The other things that need to be changed or added, both of you will work on them – Together.

"...and He brought her to the  man. And Adam said: "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man." - Genesis 2:22-23

Goodnight - and have sweet dreams!





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Finding love on the net

Many people have been emailing me asking whether it is OK to start a relationship over the internet. Because of this, I thought it would be appropriate to address this issue now.

While it is a fairly normal thing for non-christians to sign up to a dating website, I wouldn't advise the same for a Christian.
These websites will warn people about the dangers of internet dating, e.g. giving out personal details, meeting alone, etc., which applies to a Christian also. However, a Christian needs to consider a lot more than just saying 'I'm using my faith' and also accepting those words "I am a Christian too." I would even advise against using 'christian' dating websites also.

 I know church-goers who want to find a partner and are prepared to date non-christians because "God is taking too long". I have also heard many times "there is no one in the church for me," as if they dated everyone in the church and then came up with this conclusion.

This person follows what their eyes see in the church and doesn't believe there is anyone eligible for them and yet chooses to believe what that person said in those emails or that profile picture online and the section that says 'Religion, if applicable' which is filled in as - Christian.

Is this person really using their faith as they claim?
 
There are Christians so worried about finding someone that they disregard all the intellect and wisdom they asked God to give them and believe so much that that person is right for them, that they will not even bother meeting up face to face. They have already made the decision to get married. And what is this based on? Emails, letters, a few phone calls - Is that it?

There were no meetings face to face where you could get a much better impression of the person's reactions to questions that you ask them. How can you find this out by words in an email? There is no getting to know about their surroundings; their family, types of places they visit, friends they keep, if they really go to church, how they pray - nothing!
 
Unfortunately those that didn't use their intelligent faith are the ones emailing in and telling us about the consequences of their bad choices and decisions they made. And this will continue to happen to Christians who choose to ignore this advice, not from me, but from others who now have a terrible tale to tell. 

Look out for the warnings signs!
 
"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?" -2 Corinthians 6:14,15. 

There is no association with someone whom you do not know properly yet, let alone an unbeliever.
 
So my advice is: Don't go down that road. If you say you have faith, then remember that the time it took for you to change, get serious with God and eventually start praying for someone for your love life, the same is also true for that person who you want to be with. And that person God has prepared for you may only have started attending the church - this week!
 
Think about this!

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