What have other people’s problems got to do with you?

Why is it that, when we ask some people, “Are you going through any problems?” their response is, “Everybody’s got problems.” I ask again, “What have other people’s problems got to do with you?”

If they were so concerned about other people’s problems that they mention it all the time, what are they doing to help people that they are so “concerned” about? NOTHING! In fact, what they are actually saying when responding in this way is that they have done one of 3
things:

1. They don’t think there is a solution to their problems.

2. They have not faced up to dealing with the problem; they have accepted things the

    way they are.

3. They know what to do but can’t be bothered to do anything about it.

Of course there are people who at present don’t have “problems”, but what happens when they come to a point in their lives where they don’t know what to do that day will come to everyone! When someone replies, “Everyone has problems,” they have, without realising it, acted in accordance with the standards, attitudes and practices that society has force-fed them into accepting.

This undoubtedly numbs the person from facing up to the problem and uprooting it.

I remember in one of the countless arguments I used to have with Chris during the first 5 years of knowing each other (we were attending UCKG for a few months already), I was so frustrated and, at the same time, fed up with fighting nearly every day that a thought, as clear as someone speaking to me, entered my mind saying, “Look, Mum had two failed marriages, so it’s normal to argue like this too. It’s part of life, so just accept it.”
And so I did for a short period until something clicked and we sought help. We had to get to the root of the problem and, when we both faced up to it, it was then that we found out what we needed to do. To tell the truth, the answer was right under our noses.

We were just too stubborn and proud to see it and do something about it. Instead of going to the root of our problem, we took the quick and easy way out to blame the other person for why things were the way they were.

That’s what people do too. They look for the quick and easy solution to avoid even mentioning their problem to someone; they think that just because there are people worse off than them, it’s OK to accept what life has thrown at them.

Of course, there are people who will need to be guided, as they genuinely have no idea what to do to find the solution. That’s why the Root Event will be starting on Sunday, 11th September 2011.

It’s time to face up to the past. Dig deep in your closet and unmask the skeletons that you chose to hide there. It’s also to force yourself to retrace your steps and mentally discover why that problem has ended up where it is today. That’s the only way you can unearth the root to the problems in your life and lay down positive “seeds” (actions) that will prosper in the future.

Don’t you think it’s time you stop listening to negative thoughts that always bombard your mind? Just because everyone you’ve spoken with, heard about or listened to has the same problems as you and they chose to deal with it by accepting it, you don’t have to do the same thing.

The solution starts on Sunday, 11th September. This can be the first positive seed you sow towards finding solutions to your problems by being there!

Will we see you there?

Pastor Michael Boodram
Email me: love@uckg.orgwww.partners4life.tv

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The love 'filling'

Have you ever had a toothache? What do we normally do when we get that nagging pain?

Usually we ignore it for a few days. We may buy toothpaste for 'sensitive' teeth to see if that works. Sometimes it's the same tooth that has been playing up since your were a child. You even got a filling for it which resolved the problem - or so you thought!

Years later the pain slowly returns and worsens day by day. You realise that over the counter medicines or gargling grandma's homemade remedy of tree bark, 'wing of bat', 'tail of newt', cloves and salt doesn't do the trick anymore.

These are all surface treatments. However they don't treat the actual problem. And where is the real problem after doing all the above? Literally - at the root.

The solution to getting rid of the pain is to either do root canal treatment or to replace the whole tooth with an implant.

This analogy can be applied to your love life.
Perhaps you are in the latest relationship which you hoped would be the one that would be successful. However, this one, like the others before, is destined to fail. Your partner has been complaining that you are the reason for most of the arguments that have taken place; that you are always angry and that you put yourself down due to your insecurities about your looks. You even say to your partner "find someone else if you're not happy with me then". IS THIS THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM? Let's go deeper...
You didn't mention the other failed relationships or marriages.They also mentioned the same thing to you, but instead you blamed them for cheating on you; for not giving you attention. You kept telling yourself that you were no good and repeatedly said to your partner 'why did you ever go out with me' - because of the way you looked. IS THIS THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM? Let's go deeper...
You also failed to mention that as a teenager you fell pregnant or made a girl pregnant. You never liked to stay at home and was always out with those friends, of whom most of them today have failed relationships themselves, are addicted to something, in prison or died at an early age.
You never stayed indoors as your parents were always fighting. Your dad was always drunk, even cheated on your mum. When he would be out your mum would cry a lot, complaining about your father and telling you you were just like him and that you would amount to nothing. She also told you many times you were ugly and regretted you were ever born.

IS THIS THE ROOT OF YOUR PROBLEM? - Yes
With years of verbal abuse from your own mother at such an early age, those words have stayed with you ever since. It's no wonder your love life has been the way it is! - Because you have looked for a solution on the surface and not dug down deep to find out the root of the problem.

Finding the root of any problem can be time consuming, even extremely painful as you have to touch things you chose to leave buried or found difficult to deal with. However it is something you have to face up to one day.

With toothache, you always have a dentist to go to. What about the root of your love, money, family, health or spiritual problems?

Well, the root event (starting Sunday 11th September) then is exactly for those who don't want to touch the surface of their problems, patching things up with a 'filling'. It's for those who want to find the root of the problem, and either treat or uproot it so that they can move forward without getting anymore nasty surprises in the future.

FIND IT! DEAL WITH IT! SORTED!