Getting drunk for love?

No I'm not talking about Chardonnay, Merlot, Sauvignon or Semillon. I am referring to one of two wines; either God's wine or the world's wine.

How do I know if I am drinking worldly wine

You are if you are so desperate to find someone for your love life that you resort to anything to get an answer. It can involve one or all of the following:

1. Signing up to internet dating sites in the hope you will find a match.

2. Reading trashy books, magazines and articles on love, dating, sex and marriage.

3. Placing your hopes on 'your' horoscope believing what it says. For e.g.

"With the alignment of Venus and Mars, you might find that this month holds a significant breakthrough for your love life. Look out for someone wearing red."
4. Being influenced by family, friends or colleagues to look for love at nightclubs, parties, and wine bars.

5. Following family and friends wrong advice.

6. Watching, believing and following the countless daytime talk shows titled "I'm sleeping with your sister... and your mum."

7. Believing that it's natural or healthy to masturbate, watch pornography, sleep with as many people as possible or to enjoy your life because you are free to do whatever you want to do.

If you have done or are still doing any of the above, you have drunk or are still drinking the wine of this world. It's no wonder you are not happy or satisfied! You have become drunk on the spirits of this world that have influenced many to do the same things, not realising that the after-effects are more damaging that a simple hangover. These include always meeting the wrong types, feeling guilty, unwanted pregnancies, contracting STD's, depression, quickie divorces, feeling suicidal and more.

As the verses below says, don't judge the world's wine by its quick solutions, but instead by the after-effects that you have witnessed in other peoples lives as well as your own. And then after being disappointed, you repeat the same thing again thinking this time all will be different.

"Who are the people who are always crying the blues? Who do you know who reeks of self-pity? Who keeps getting beat up for no reason at all? Whose eyes are bleary and bloodshot? It's those who spend the night with a bottle, for whom drinking is serious business. Don't judge wine by its label, or its bouquet, or its full-bodied flavor. Judge it rather by the hangover it leaves you with-the splitting headache, the

queasy stomach. Do you really prefer seeing double, with your speech all slurred, Reeling and seasick, drunk as a sailor? "They hit me," you'll say, "but it didn't hurt; they beat on me, but I didn't feel a thing. When I'm sober enough to manage it, bring me another drink!" Proverbs 23:29-35 The Message

Be 'drunk' on God's wine

That is, His Spirit. This involves His Word, and patience, persistence, trust and more importantly being revolted at having been deceived all this time and don't allow yourself to drink the cheap wine that this world offers you again. You will be sober, not confused or blinded by others. And should you make wrong decisions you will remain standing, able to learn from mistakes and move on instead of repeating more of the same destructive actions.

Quench the thirst in your love life by following God's direction every Saturday 7pm, Sunday 9.30am and also Wednesday 7.30pm.

Don’t repeat their mistakes

Here are a few well-known people you just might have heard of; people we listened to, watched, supported them in some way, or admired. They reached the top in their field at one point. They earned the money, lived in houses, drove cars, some still have the looks many dream of having, yet many could not even hold down a relationship or marriage for long. Are they examples you should be looking up to?

Did they really find out whether their partners were the right ones for them? Some did, but look at the statistics below and judge for yourself.

- Arnold Schwarzenegger & Maria Shriver, married 1986 – 25 years

- Harrison Ford & Melissa Mathison, married 1983 – 21 years

- Lionel Ritchie & Brenda Harvey, married 1975 – 17 years

- Kevin Costner & Cindy Silva, married 1978– 16years

- Donald & Ivana Trump, married 1977 – 15 years

- Mick Jagger & Jerry Hall, married 1990 – 9 years

- Madonna & Guy Ritchie, married 2000 – 8 years

- Paul McCartney & Heather Mills, married 2002 – 6 years

- Tiger Woods & Elin Nordegren, married 2004 – 6 years

- Steven Spielberg & Amy Irving, married 1985 – 4 years

- James Cameron & Linda Hamilton, married 1997 – 17 months

- Jim Carey & Lauren Holly, married 1996 – 9 months

- Drew Barrymore & Tom Green, married 2001 – 6 months

- Pamela Anderson & Kid Rock, married 2006 – 5 months

- Nicolas Cage and Lisa Marie Presley, married 2002 – 5 months

- Colin Farrell & Amelia Warner, married 2001 – 4 months

- Renee Zellweger & Kenny Chesney, married 2005 – 4 months

- Kim Kardashian & Kris Humphries, married 2011 – 72 days

- Carmen Electra & Dennis Rodman, married 1998 – 9 days

- Dennis Hopper & Michelle Phillips, married 1970 – 7 days

- Britney Spears & Jason Allen Alexander, married 2004 – 55 hours

- Zsa Zsa Gabor & Felipe De Alba, married 1982 – 1 day.

And the list goes on… not to mention the others who never married, but are in and out of countless relationships. 

Don’t repeat their mistakes!

We are continuing with the “10 Reasons Why He/She Might Not Be The One.”
Make sure you get it right, whether it’s your first relationship or not.

Can you afford to miss Love Therapy? – This Saturday, 7pm at the Rainbow Theatre.

The forward thinker

I recently got over a very bad flu that hit me unexpectedly. I hardly get the flu, but when it does happen, it hits me hard. Thank God I have my wife to look after me when I get like this.

Thinking back, I realise there were a few things that I could and should have done to avoid, or at least limit the chances of catching the flu.

Firstly, I could have avoided being close to that colleague of mine whom I suspected had the flu too. While working near me, he coughed unintentionally next to my face. Had I have known, things would have been different. I wouldn't have stayed as close to him when he was talking.

Secondly, I could have eaten more healthily, strengthening my immune system. I noticed that I hadn't been eating as many fruits and vegetables as I normally do. Also I hadn't been did drinking enough water, or orange juice, something that I personally know I need to drink.

Thirdly, I could have been more active, doing some sort of physical exercise to help strengthen my immune system also.

The thing is, we do not know when we will fall ill. If we did, we would do everything possible to avoid becoming sick. As the saying goes, prevention is better than a cure. Had I been more forward thinking and done all the things mentioned, I could have avoided becoming sick.

Why do people also do this when it comes to relationships?

Why is it that that a woman falls for the same type of man having had the 'x' number of previous relationships end because she could not see, or chose to believe that this time 'he' was different?

Why is it that although he is many years older than you are, you still end up in a relationship with him knowing like the others, he will eventually treat you like his child and not respect you or value your opinions?

Why is it that all women you are interested in or have been with in the past say the same thing about you - You are "stubborn", "proud", "arrogant", "mean", "jealous".

Is every woman you have been with wrong, including the Holy Spirit who says the same thing to you in the service?

Never think 'this time it will be different' when you have not thought, said, reacted to or done anything differently in relation to what you went through in your past. It doesn't work like that.

How can you end this repetition of failure that now makes you believe in your head it's everyone else's fault - even God's?

Firstly, learn from your mistakes! Listen to your gut instinct!

Learn from what you have heard in the church - the use of your faith with intelligence.

Be a forward thinker! Stop your feelings from guiding you to yet another disastrous relationship or even marriage.

By the way, have you been attending the Love Therapy on Saturdays? If not, what are you waiting for? Come and receive the Spirit of love.

If you have understood this message and are willing to attend or you are already attending, then you have caught the forward thinking spirit.

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The Blame Game

Whenever we don't want to admit we are wrong or own up to our mistakes, we will always look for someone else to point the finger of blame at. We adopted this "it wasn't me, it was them" attitude when we were children to escape being 'told off'.

This is what the first man and woman did in the Garden of Eden. When Eve was tempted by the serpent and ate the fruit, it didn’t stop there; she persuaded her husband to eat from the same tree. Now let’s look at what they said when God enquired about their behaviour.

How did Adam respond to God's question? - "Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?"
Instead of answering "I realised I was naked. We both ate from the tree you told us not to eat from", he decided to blame someone else – His wife! His answer: "The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate."

How did Eve respond to God's question? - "What is this you have done?" Instead of answering "It was all my fault, I should not have given any attention to the serpent", she said "The serpent deceived me, and I ate."

Both Adam and Eve played 'The Blame Game'.

When you point the finger at others, you are in fact repeating Adam and Eve's biggest mistake. You are in fact revealing who you really are and not what others are actually like.

Do not blame others for your mistakes! Own up to them, admit to them and move on by not repeating those mistakes again.
This could be the reason why you are unhappy in your love life; still single or, maybe you are with someone, however, the constant bickering and finger-pointing does little to solve the real problem – Admitting YOU are at fault.
Do not focus on your partner's many mistakes s/he may have. Work on dealing with your own first. That way, you will help your partner overcome theirs instead being the major player in 'The Blame Game

'^"And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye." Matthew 7:3-5