Leave no stone unturned

When someone is desperate for an answer they will do whatever it takes to find one, no matter what the cost or how long it may take.

To answer the next question sincerely, you will need to be brutally honest with yourself.

Have you noticed the ridiculous things you used to do and how long you did them for in order to find happiness in your love life? You made a fool of yourself, slept around, wasted money on worthless cures, potions, pendants, ointments however, there was little or no change at all and in most cases, things got even worse.

I have noticed that when people finally look for an answer by attending church, they do not adopt that same 'do whatever it takes' attitude as before. Picture the scene...

They come in having set an appointment to speak to someone regarding their love life. They say they have been unlucky having been married once, dated many others and now they are not sure if the person they are seeing presently is the right one, as like the others, they are not getting along.

We listen, ask questions, listen again, and then offer them a solution - The Chain of Prayer; 7 weeks where you will discover and learn new things, guided by the Holy Spirit, to shape YOU into the new person that God wants and deep down you want to be too. They are advised that it will not be easy but God can make all things possible - and so they start the Chain.

In the first few weeks all seems to be going well, but then we do not see them anymore. We call to find out how everything is and the answer is normally the same: "Things have gotten worse between us." "I don't think it will work." "I think it's best we go our separate ways."

It's funny how the person was prepared to persevere for years doing the wrong things and now they want to give up after just a few weeks of doing the right things  - the right things that will guarantee their future success.

And then you get those who stop because they say that they have now met 'the one' thinking that God is some sort of magician that will give them what they want without any effort on their part.

Hmmmmm... We know the reason for such quick decisions or results...and it wasn't God!

The problem is that the person, being so anxious to find a quick answer, has been caught  'hook, line and sinker', believing that their 'prayers have been answered'.

Though with God all things are possible, He does not give us things cheaply. There is a price to pay for receiving His blessings. In this case the cost is time, perseverance, trust, patience, denying yourself in order to learn how to do things God's way.

There is a saying: You get what you pay for!

If you get something quick and cheaply without any effort on your part, firstly, it will not last long and secondly, you will not value it. However, when there is blood, sweat and tears, i.e. sacrifice, then you will NEVER be disappointed with the final result God Himself will give you.

Don't opt for quick results. Just ask anyone who has fought to get married today about the hardships they faced, and how easy, cheaper alternatives were offered to them. But they resisted those fake, cheap imitations, denied themselves and kept on going. They searched within themselves, asked questions, accepted to be corrected where necessary, asked for advice, dug deep.

Do all you can so that God has no other option but to bless you - LEAVE NO STONE UNTURNED.

"Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God. And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope. Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us." Romans 5:1-5

The harder the battle, the sweeter the victory!