Don’t repeat their mistakes

Here are a few well-known people you just might have heard of; people we listened to, watched, supported them in some way, or admired. They reached the top in their field at one point. They earned the money, lived in houses, drove cars, some still have the looks many dream of having, yet many could not even hold down a relationship or marriage for long. Are they examples you should be looking up to?

Did they really find out whether their partners were the right ones for them? Some did, but look at the statistics below and judge for yourself.

- Arnold Schwarzenegger & Maria Shriver, married 1986 – 25 years

- Harrison Ford & Melissa Mathison, married 1983 – 21 years

- Lionel Ritchie & Brenda Harvey, married 1975 – 17 years

- Kevin Costner & Cindy Silva, married 1978– 16years

- Donald & Ivana Trump, married 1977 – 15 years

- Mick Jagger & Jerry Hall, married 1990 – 9 years

- Madonna & Guy Ritchie, married 2000 – 8 years

- Paul McCartney & Heather Mills, married 2002 – 6 years

- Tiger Woods & Elin Nordegren, married 2004 – 6 years

- Steven Spielberg & Amy Irving, married 1985 – 4 years

- James Cameron & Linda Hamilton, married 1997 – 17 months

- Jim Carey & Lauren Holly, married 1996 – 9 months

- Drew Barrymore & Tom Green, married 2001 – 6 months

- Pamela Anderson & Kid Rock, married 2006 – 5 months

- Nicolas Cage and Lisa Marie Presley, married 2002 – 5 months

- Colin Farrell & Amelia Warner, married 2001 – 4 months

- Renee Zellweger & Kenny Chesney, married 2005 – 4 months

- Kim Kardashian & Kris Humphries, married 2011 – 72 days

- Carmen Electra & Dennis Rodman, married 1998 – 9 days

- Dennis Hopper & Michelle Phillips, married 1970 – 7 days

- Britney Spears & Jason Allen Alexander, married 2004 – 55 hours

- Zsa Zsa Gabor & Felipe De Alba, married 1982 – 1 day.

And the list goes on… not to mention the others who never married, but are in and out of countless relationships. 

Don’t repeat their mistakes!

We are continuing with the “10 Reasons Why He/She Might Not Be The One.”
Make sure you get it right, whether it’s your first relationship or not.

Can you afford to miss Love Therapy? – This Saturday, 7pm at the Rainbow Theatre.

Love - R.I.P.



Over the last month I attended 2 funeral services of faithful elderly members of the church. And as usual, we prayed for the family, relatives and friends of the deceased, instead of the soul of the dead, according to the Bible.

While waiting for family and friends to arrive at one house, I was thinking how people react according who has died.

Have you noticed when a young person has died, whether through an illness, a fatal incident or something else, the mourners cry bitterly asking 'why was a talented young life cut so short?' It seems that life touched everyone, especially their peers.

But have you also noticed that when an elderly person passes away, the reaction is not the same? Of course, there will always be very close family and friends who will mourn but I asked myself 'why does this happen?'

The conclusion I came up with is that everyone knows that the elderly person is nearing their time, whether through old age or a long-term sickness. We mentally prepare ourselves expecting that their death is just around the corner.

And unfortunately, that's how the older generation sometimes react towards their love life. Have you confined your love life to the morgue? Maybe you have convinced yourself that years of being single, because you are getting on in life, the idea that there is 'no one' out there for you, one failed relationship after another, all of this and more, contribute to the 'illness' or 'fatal sickness' that ends all hopes of ever having a successful love life.

If you are guilty of any of the above, then you yourself are nailing your coffin shut, erecting a tombstone on it with your epitaph saying 'Love - R.I.P.'

Have you been mourning the death of your love life though there is still time to not only focus on yourself, but to find someone and still enjoy many years of a happy marriage?

And the younger ones, take heed too as you may have already written yourself off though you have years ahead of you.

Whatever your age, there's a promise for you too which I would like you to have in the forefront of your mind whenever you feel down about your love life. You should repeat the following words to yourself:

"For with God nothing will be impossible." Luke 1:37

If you have a history of being with partners that were not right for you and now consider your love life dead because you have always ended up with the wrong type of person, then the Love Therapy meetings are for you. We will be revealing "10 reasons why he/she might not be the one".

Learning about these important points will help you to avoid even starting a relationship with someone who is not right for you, whether you have been married and divorced or if you are single and want to prepare yourself for a relationship.

Don't forget to pick up your Love Therapy card and start learning all 10 reasons this Saturday, 7pm - at The Rainbow.



The forward thinker

I recently got over a very bad flu that hit me unexpectedly. I hardly get the flu, but when it does happen, it hits me hard. Thank God I have my wife to look after me when I get like this.

Thinking back, I realise there were a few things that I could and should have done to avoid, or at least limit the chances of catching the flu.

Firstly, I could have avoided being close to that colleague of mine whom I suspected had the flu too. While working near me, he coughed unintentionally next to my face. Had I have known, things would have been different. I wouldn't have stayed as close to him when he was talking.

Secondly, I could have eaten more healthily, strengthening my immune system. I noticed that I hadn't been eating as many fruits and vegetables as I normally do. Also I hadn't been did drinking enough water, or orange juice, something that I personally know I need to drink.

Thirdly, I could have been more active, doing some sort of physical exercise to help strengthen my immune system also.

The thing is, we do not know when we will fall ill. If we did, we would do everything possible to avoid becoming sick. As the saying goes, prevention is better than a cure. Had I been more forward thinking and done all the things mentioned, I could have avoided becoming sick.

Why do people also do this when it comes to relationships?

Why is it that that a woman falls for the same type of man having had the 'x' number of previous relationships end because she could not see, or chose to believe that this time 'he' was different?

Why is it that although he is many years older than you are, you still end up in a relationship with him knowing like the others, he will eventually treat you like his child and not respect you or value your opinions?

Why is it that all women you are interested in or have been with in the past say the same thing about you - You are "stubborn", "proud", "arrogant", "mean", "jealous".

Is every woman you have been with wrong, including the Holy Spirit who says the same thing to you in the service?

Never think 'this time it will be different' when you have not thought, said, reacted to or done anything differently in relation to what you went through in your past. It doesn't work like that.

How can you end this repetition of failure that now makes you believe in your head it's everyone else's fault - even God's?

Firstly, learn from your mistakes! Listen to your gut instinct!

Learn from what you have heard in the church - the use of your faith with intelligence.

Be a forward thinker! Stop your feelings from guiding you to yet another disastrous relationship or even marriage.

By the way, have you been attending the Love Therapy on Saturdays? If not, what are you waiting for? Come and receive the Spirit of love.

If you have understood this message and are willing to attend or you are already attending, then you have caught the forward thinking spirit.