Everything was exciting in the beginning! Meeting for the first time; the butterflies in the stomach, your heart would beat excited at his voice over the phone.
You did things spontaneously too! The weekend getaway, the surprise dinners, romantic drives. You presented her with flowers.
You were so concerned about your appearance too. Hours spent in front of the mirror doing your hair, nails, make-up. Even longer trying to choose that killer outfit for the night ahead. You even cleaned places in your house you never touched in a long time – all this to make an impression on the one you hoped would one day be – The one!
It’s been years now. The children are in school, both of you are working all the shifts you can get. No more butterflies. Now you can’t bear to hear him breathe – let alone speak.
The weekend getaway? What’s that! Now you wish he would go away. Surprise dinners now are a takeaway one Saturday in a blue moon; Romantic drives - not anymore! Petrol prices are too high; Flowers! Why? – She’s got me for life.
Where’s the fire that once burned for each other.
Now you don’t take any pride in your appearance. Why do you think he had that affair? Because he kept coming home seeing you in a tracksuit, no make-up, hair tied-back and smelling of today’s dinner. You can’t even get rid of that muffin-top since your first child.
Are you going to wait until he decides to leave you and then make a change to your appearance, like so many women have done – When it’s too late!
Once their husband leaves them, they then say to themselves, “I’ll show him what he’s missing” and so they lose the weight, get their hair, nails and make-up done, buy the tightest jeans and high heels and act like they were 18 again. But it’s too late now. The damage has been done.
Here are my tips on how to avoid this ever happening to you:
1. Put your partner first (After God, of course). Think of ways to please them and not yourself only. Sometimes this means allowing them to have their ‘me time’ eg. Football, reading a book. Respect their own space.
2. Make time each day to spend with one another. Don’t let daily life come in the way of your relationship. Plan an evening alone. Make babysitting arrangements, if needed.
3. Be spontaneous. Don’t always plan everything you are want to do. This makes it fun and exciting.
4. Don’t be predictable. Your time together will always be new and exciting.
5. Above all, ACT NOW before it’s too late.
really good and so true! :]
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